Okay, I'm in a bit of a social pickle; don't really know how to deal with this one.
My mother has a best friend whom she has known since they were both small children. She is very much a New England liberal, and though we've always disagreed (as do she and my mother), we've always been civil.
But now that she and I both are on Facebook, she has essentially been tracking not only my posts, but my husband's as well, and leaving nasty comments any time we say anything remotely political. As you all know, I'm very vocal about my beliefs about liberty and social justice, and it's to the point where I can't say anything about my beliefs without her telling me that, essentially, I have no life experience or knowledge about what I'm saying, so I just need to shut up.
Then, when my husband posted an ultrasound picture of our son, she left this comment:
"I feel sorry for the child who will be surrounded by such analitical, self pontificating, pius, group of people. Who just love to out-talk each other. And have the last word, defined by thier own definition of what is politically correct or not.
It's a shame and it's sad....but mostly, it's an embarrassment to read. Practice life a little bit more before you preach about it. It'll make you seem less like fools."
Honestly, it's hurtful that somene who's practically family, who knows what I've done and continue to do, feels the need to treat us this way. But it's also hurtful that my mother's position is to stay out of it, especially since she knows her friend isn't going to listen to me when I tell her to leave my family alone -- I've already tried that.
It's getting really rediculous and I honestly have no idea of what to do. I don't want to drag my mother into the middle of anything but I also don't want to be textually assaulted any time I speak my mind.
Any ideas?
Comments (15)
defriend her on facebook, don't give her a platform.
You should seriously watch the video I posted tonight ( political correctness)
@ProvokingThought - The video won't load. :(
And I did defriend her; I really didn't want to but honestly, I don't need the stress. I just hope she grows up so I don't feel the need to keep her from my family. I was really hoping she'd be happy for me but I guess it's her prerogative to be childish.
@GermanWrench - that is ashame. The comment on your child was over the edge, but it exposed her and that my e-friend is invaluable.
see if this works for you. I will upload it and convert it in the mean time.
http://www.nmatv.com/video/2645/The-History-of-Political-Correctness
@GermanWrench - GOOD. I was also going to suggest defriending that psycho. That is rude and just disgusting behavior, for anyone, of any age (although it sounds around junior-high-ish to me...). And frankly, I think your mother should have said something to her, assuming she knows exactly what was said between you two/three. Petty fights like this should not be something you have to deal with while preparing for the baby.
And from what I've read, this baby will be born into a very loving, responsible, and patriotic home. Congrats again!
I'm glad more reasonable people posted before me - my suggestion involved cursing. That lady is lucky I didn't/don't have a way of giving her the tongue-lashing she deserve for such an unkind and baseless statement.
I hope your distress is quickly lowered :(
*angry face, worried face*
Congrats on your pregnancy. I don't know you personally, but from what I've read of your blog, your child is/will be in very capable hands.
Defriend. Best solution.
I had a long time friend from HS (some thirty years ago) defriend me because he was an ardent Obama supporter. He didn't like the things I wrote on my FB and personal blog.
You did the right thing. She's got a problem, you don't, so don't let her become a problem for you. Friendship is not an invitation to abuse.
Do what I do to my Liberal friends.....ask them for FACTS instead of opinions, it shuts them up real quick.
ryc: thank you for your words of encouragement. I too have seen many a good man and woman remain single and wonder at it. Love is...odd.
if it were me personally I'd politely ask her to remove the stick from her A__--butt, then tell her not to come back. But that's just me
ryc: I've heard the price-tag for Obamakare (spelled with a "k" because we're soviets now) could hit 5 trillion when all is said and done - almost double the high-end estimate and almost five times what they're promising. Add to this all the other wasteful and STUPID spending and we're looking at dollars backed by Obama's grin - which might play well in America but the rest of the world is going to say "F your IOU."
It's sad to think a handful of idiots could destroy the last superpower on earth.
@JJ_Ames - "Could"? I think you're optimistic, my friend...
@GermanWrench - I'm just trying to accurately reflect what they said. Fairly certain my wallet is full of future toilet paper...
Block her!
She obviously has no sense of social manners, if she runs that kind of abuse by you on a public site. For a family "friend" it's inexcusable. But if you've already "defriended" her, then there should be no problem. You can keep her from leaving comments. Your mother, however, sounds like she should review her relationships a little more closely.